When I’m 64 (or older)

A picture by unknown artist, showing The Beatles at the age of 64

“When I get older losing my hair
Many years from now”

I’m pretty sure you can imagine that aging really sucks! I’m still officially sixty-four, butI’ll be sixty-five at the end of the year. I gotta tell ya, there’s so much I didn’t see coming. I mean, I knew aging was inevitable, but jeez, I never expected it to be this hard. The body starts going a little wonky so you really have to pay attention and take better care of it. When I was younger, I never thought twice about waking up and rolling over in bed to have a cigarette. Eating nachos, pizza, and beer for dinner and Taco Bell for a late night snack before bed …at three AM. Now, you gotta really watch what you eat …less salt, no sugar, carbs, or red meats. And definitely, no smoking, which I miss terribly. And only drinking alcohol in moderation, if at all. It’s a travesty, I tell ya, a travesty. And then, there are the moments when you’re having a normal conversation and sometimes the words start playing hide-n-seek in your brain …and you have to spend a good amount of time searching for them….which causes a fit of anxiety because you’re suddenly afraid you might have Alzheimer’s…which only buries the words deeper and you’ll never find them until an hour later when you’ve calmed down. Now that REALLY sucks! But, in spite of all the physical trials, people my age are also confronted by a challenge we just weren’t prepared for. Ageism.

“I could be handy, mending a fuse
When your lights have gone”

Being overlooked for employment, the misconceptions, dismissive attitudes, negative assumptions, and the notion that all of your experience gathered in a lifetime in the workforce is no longer an asset, but a liability. Older folks are frequently stereotyped as feeble, out of touch, incapable of learning new things, and being a Walmart greeter is something you should be pursuing now. It’s just assumed that you will have nothing to contribute; that you’re automatically ineligible for any job you would have been over-qualified for ten years ago. Because, you know, you’re most likely going to retire to Boca and be out of the workforce within a year or two, right? And employers need to hire people who are going to stick around awhile, right?

“Doing the garden, digging the weeds
Who could ask for more”

Yes, I know…I know. Younger folks will have much more time in the workforce than us sixty-four plus workers. It’s the natural order of things. But let me tell you, I’ve recently seen so many resumes of young people in today’s workforce who have only held on to a job for just a year or two and they move on to the next one.

Please don’t get me wrong, I work with younger people all the time. I’m not that “Hey you kids, get off my lawn” guy. That’s just ageism in reverse. But, it seems that some young workers feel entitled to more without really working for it …or at it. They want a better title, higher salaries, more opportunity for career growth without gathering the needed experience. After only a year or two, when things aren’t moving fast enough for them in this instant gratification world, they lose patience and move on to the next job looking for the same things. I was flabbergasted when I read these resumes! But there it was, in black and white, and sometimes multi-colored because they use MS Word resume templates (but never in large print.) These young people only hung around for a year or two then moved on! Yet, they continue to get hired.

Look, it’s just an observation, and, kind of a biased one I admit. I don’t have any research or statistics or official documentation about this generation being any different than previous ones. I’m certain there were resumes of peers in my age group reflecting the same lack of commitment to a job or career in their time. And I’m just as certain this generation is filled with hard-working, conscientious adults who believe in working their craft and earning their future. My point is, why not consider hiring someone that’s sixty-four or older? A hard worker who has shown loyalty and commitment to a company longer than it takes to have a Triple, Venti, Half Sweet, Non-Fat, Caramel Macchiato, no whip coffee? They just might surprise you. And they just might stick around for as long as you’ll have them.

Most older workers have a career full of experience; they can contribute to a business’s bottom line as well as mentor young workers. Now, there are lots of older folks who reach sixty-five and have had enough, made enough money, and look forward to retirement. And golf every day. But there are many older people who still enjoy working and don’t want to stop. Or let their age–which is just a number. Or let any age-related physical challenges get in the way of continuing to be a productive, whole person, capable of still making substantive contributions to life …and the bottom line. We just want the chance to prove it.

“Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
when I’m sixty-four…”

Lennon & McCartney

Innocence Lost!

Growing up, I was always a big fan of the Hal Roach Little Rascals short films when they used to air on Captain Penny and other kids TV shows. Before Spanky and Alfalfa, there was Jackie (Cooper), Wheezer, Tubby, Mary, Farina, etc. And I gotta admit, I had a little crush on Miss Crabtree ( “Hi Crabby”). Little Rascals short films are currently streaming on Hulu ….and in fake color! I was giddy with nostalgia to check them out. But, first episode right outta the gate (“School’s Out” from 1930) made me absolutely cringe. Blatant racism, misogyny, child abuse with parents whipping their kids with razor straps. And that was just in the first 5 minutes!! I know times were VERY different in 1930, but jeepers, 10 minutes in I couldn’t watch any more. As a kid I was so enamored by those kids; the reactions and facial expressions of shock, happiness. disappointment, and bewilderment as they navigate the adult world. As an actor, I’ve used a lot of those faces on stage and on camera. But seeing this episode and all of its societal Injustice displayed as a matter of course in that era was appalling. I felt ashamed for liking these films as a kid. Yes, we have come a long way from the antiquated culture of the 1930s, and yet, sadly, I realize we still have a long way to go.

Fun Size on Hulu

I read an article the other day listing all the films and tv shows streaming this month on Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Prime, etc. I saw that a film I was in is streaming this month on Hulu. I had a small speaking part as “Older Spider-Man” appearing in the first fifteen minutes of the film. My part was so small I was convinced it would be relegated to the cutting room floor. I was pleasantly surprised when my scene actually made it into the film. In fact, my scene made it into the trailers and TV spots when the film first came out in 2012. I’m also pleasantly surprised when the residual checks come in periodically. Hey….$12 dollars is $12 dollars!

Finished My Short Film Screenplay

I just finished writing my short story screenplay Second Chance,  a story about  “the one that got away.”   I hope to have this cast and filmed this year.  It should be an easy shoot and I have just the director in mind to do it.  His name is Matt Pallotta and he’s been a great collaborator for years, and one talented son-of-a-gun behind the camera. He just opened his own production company last year and I highly recommend his work if you’re in need of a video for corporate, commercial and film. Find him at https://frameonemedia.com/

UPDATE:
Well, back to the drawing board…or the laptop, as it were.  My eldest daughter read the script and gave me some terrific feedback (something she does for a living.)  I respect her thoughts, critiques, and ideas on scripts immensely, and I’ve have been trying to find a way to implement some of her suggestions in a revised version.  I think I’ve done that and I’m curious about her thoughts on this revision. I’ll get out another update when that happens.


A young couple experiences an instant connection when they meet by chance at a high school party, only to lose each other when fate separates them later that same night without a moment to say goodbye. Thirty-five years and a lifetime later, difficult cercumstances and another chance meeting bring them together again. Will fate give them a second chance?

Once Again…A Long Time Between Posts

So, I have no idea why I don’t keep writing on this blog. I’ve been busy, sure, but not THAT busy! I’ve been writing a short film script and a few songs but, C’mon, I need to get on the ball here. I think sometimes I forget I have this platform and when I do remember, or have something to say, it’s just not convenient to publish at the time. However, I think I’ve found a few writing apps that I can jot down some thoughts and publish to this blog whenever and wherever I am and that should make it easier. But Geez…I have this platform and I need to take advantage of it. And I will.

R.I.P. Barbra Bush

I have been a life-long Liberal, living somewhere to the left of the middle in the political spectrum. In my mind, I find the Conservative’s view of what modern day America should be to be extremely short-sighted, monolithic and even cruel. No matter what “modern day” we’re living in. I will never understand the political right’s resistance to climate change and the science behind it, other than for monetary profit; the adamant resistance to responsible gun control and furtherance of the antiquated second amendment that was born of a very different time in this country; the stubborn, and in many instances, piously hypocritical “Christian” view of the LGBTQ community.

On this day, however, all politics are put aside. Watching the emotional, heart-felt funeral ceremony of former First Lady Barbara Bush televised this morning, I am overwhelmed by our ability to come together as one community, one society, one tribe, one people, to mourn the passing and remember one of our own for how they lived their life on this earth. This is how this country works best and how this country should live–conservative, liberal, independent, atheist, whatever–we shouldn’t have to wait until a national tragedy or a national funeral brings us together.

The life of Barbara Bush, as eulogized so elegantly by her family and friends, has galvanized me, more for the private things we didn’t know about this woman rather than what we knew about her based upon her public life. Her humanity, faith and love of people, no matter who they were or where they came from, should be a model for us all on how to live together. The eulogy mentioned her strong personality and how she was the real “head of the family” …as most women are, in my opinion. As someone who has been married to the love of my life for over forty two years, the revelation of the enchanting love story and seventy three years of marriage of Barbra Bush to her partner in life, former President George Herbert Walker Bush, made an impression on me I didn’t expect.

The talking heads TV coverage mentioned the American political history on display at this funeral, with the presence of members of The Kennedy family, the Johnson family, The Nixon family, The Clintons, The Obamas and The Bush family, coming together to celebrate the life of a beloved member of our country’s “Greatest Generation” and how Republicans and Democrats can come together on common ground in a show of unity, humanity and real American values.

The fact that Donald Trump wasn’t present was both wonderful and sickening at the same time. Wonderful in that the country had a reprieve from this vile buffoon whose presence alone can diminish and despoil a loving human moment such as this. Sickening in that the sitting President of the United States was not in attendance to show respect to an honorable First Lady of our nation. The current First Lady was there, alone, (as I’m sure she would rather be) in a painfully disappointing pretense of respect from this current administration. The visual was clear. She was alone. The current President was in Florida, where earlier in the week, he was golfing.

SAD.

Long Holiday Weekend-Complete!

teal fujifilm instax mini camera near white ceramic mug
Photo by Element5 Digital on Pexels.com

My wife and I were really looking forward to a long Labor Day holiday weekend with our three daughters and grandkids. It was all kind of spaced out over the entire weekend, and not all three of them were together at the same time, but it was successful nonetheless.

And those grandbabies are amazing!  With families spread out all over the country these days, we were so grateful for the chance to have them visit us this weekend.

Getting Started With The New Blog

I’ve finally set up this new blog and wanted to start jotting down thoughts, story ideas etc.

I’m currently developing a supernatural/Sci-Fi story set in the Sea of Japan. I’m trying to nail down the characters but running into a creative quandary regarding my lead characters. I’m also trying to use some software to help me plot the story and characters, such as Save The Cat and Dramatica Story Expert. I’m also experimenting with Scrivener and not really sure how Final Draft can help with story development. Just starting to look into all of these and others.

At age (almost) 63, I’m starting to do what I really thought I could’ve — and should’ve —done a long time ago but never really had the time or inclination to get started. But my recent “semi-retirement” (still pursuing the freelance Voice Actor life) has afforded me the opportunity to explore this next creative phase in my life.

So, here goes!